This one is for the guys out there….something I stumbled on the net
I was at the AskMen.com – the website dedicated for men when I came across this article by the one and only Mr Mafioso. It was titled “12 Ways Men Became Sissies & Whiners”. In this article, M says that women want a man who will act like a man, who will take charge, who can make decisions, who doesn’t cry, and who faces fear (is it?).
He analysed 12 ways where men have gone wrong. I was interested or rather was curious on what he had to say, so I clicked and found this list (I have edited it to make it short but for full details, go to the site. My comments are in brackets).
Why Men have become Sissies & Whiners?
1. Men quit easily
It used to be that a man had to have two bullets in his head to quit whatever he was doing. Now, at the first sign of trouble, men put up their hands and say “I quit,” instead of fighting the tough battle.
(This does not mean that women quit easily too. Everyone must keep on trying to complete the task in hand. I worked under several rather mean bosses for years before calling it a quit. I could have stay on but the offer from my current workplace was too good to be turned down)
2. Men can’t handle criticism
Remember the expression “take it like a man”? Now every time someone says something critical that isn’t sugar-coated with girly fairy dust, all hell breaks loose, and the tears start to roll.
(I guess it is part of my defensive mechanism – hear one criticism about myself and I immediately switch into denial or counter-argument mode. After all, I am a trained lawyer, am I not? For me, it seems like I can’t do anything wrong but you know, there will always someone who comes along and prove me wrong. Big wake up call for me)
3. Men complaint
Remember when Don Corleone said to his godson, “You can act like a man! [Slap] What’s the matter with you?” Accept that life isn’t perfect and move on. We’ve become selfish pigs, not doing anything without selfish gain.
(I accepted life was not perfect long, long time ago. Life is not only imperfect but it is also not fair. I used to complaint to a lot of people, these days I just blog about. Something will never change, I guess)
4. Men groom like women
I’m all for a good manicure and proper hygiene, but let’s get one thing straight — I will never wax anything off my body that God intended to have there. I am not going to go to a fancy girly spa to get some algae crap on my face. Look clean, iron your clothes, anything else leave to your mother-in-law.
(Damn, I know this was coming. With my wife selling Avon Beauty products, I can’t help checking out some of the beauty products. I guess, at my age, first impression matters too)
5. Men talk about their feelings
I love this one. Men all of a sudden have “feelings” others need to hear about. It’s not enough that men are crying, they now must “express” themselves. Asking a woman if she loves you or if you satisfy her is pathetic.
(This definitely is not me. I keep my feelings to myself – my wife on the other hand, is the opposite of me. But then again, feelings can mean a lot of things. Softy type? Once upon a time, probably yes)
6. Men side with feminists
Anyone who knows me knows how much I love feminists, so when I see men yelling for social and workplace equality, Girl Power and the Spice Girls, I just start vomiting. Being macho has become a dirty word.
(This is a tough one especially when my wife is standing beside me. Any sign of not supporting the feminist can spell trouble for me later)
7. Men embrace unmanly trends
Being a metrosexual, meditating, being a vegan, being anti-spider killing, being a stronzo, a Tom Cruise fan, whatever, all people who follow any of these things should be gathered up, put on an island north of Siberia, and allowed to pursue their interests in the comfort of their fellow sissy males.
(I guess M would not be watching Brokeback Mountain – the story sounds unmanly too)
8. Men are useless
Our forefathers could build a house that lasted for 200 years with their bare hands, nowadays men can’t even put up a shelf without reading a 200-page manual. Sure, there are still Luigi and Mario who can build you a nice five-bedroom house in five days, but most guys don’t even own a hammer anymore.
(Luckily I have not come to that point yet – there is still a hammer and a big toolbox in my house in case I need to DIY any fixes. Of course I take the easy way out by asking my brother to do the fixes whilst I “supervise” the job. Perhaps after I moved house, I can start sharpening my handy work skills)
9. Men are afraid to tell someone off
.Men have no problem telling everyone their childhood fantasies about their teddy bears, but ask them to be direct, blunt, and tell it like it is, and all of a sudden they belong to the United Nations. You know why? Because if they are brutally honest and forward, then someone might be brutally honest back, and heaven forbid someone tell us we’re not God incarnate.
(I may not be the person who is too direct or blunt but meet me with any idiots on the road and see how direct I can be)
When did becoming a stay-at-home dad become cool? When did being a male nurse become something guys grew up thinking of? When did being a secretary scream out “ambitious career plan”? When did holding your wife’s hand while she’s delivering your baby become a mandatory male experience?
(Things have changed –if women can take on men’s roles, men should able to take women’s roles too)
11. Men watch too much Oprah
Do I have to explain this one?
(Sorry, I don’t watch Oprah too)
12. Men are whipped
The most important reason men have lost all sense of masculinity is their inability to be master of their own domain. Men have handed over the whip to their women, and allowed them to use it, liberally, frequently, and without discretion. No decision can be made without consulting the female — your word as the final say is a running joke when you accept being second fiddle in the hierarchy chain.
(It all depends how intelligent the decision is – irregardless whether you are a male or female)
M concluded: “…You don’t have to be a male chauvinist pig, but for crying out loud, reclaim your manhood. Be strong, be decisive, and stop watching Oprah”.
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